All children are capable of doing the extraordinary things they desire. iQuriousKids believes there is no success or prodigy gene to pre-destine kids to reach their highest potential. We believe the factor that helps kids achieve success is their resilience!
None of us can ever control the challenges our kids might face in life. But, we can surely teach them how to bounce back from the challenges and emerge victoriously. We know that you definitely want to build resilience in your kids, but first, let’s understand what resilience is all about.
Resilience is the ability to bounce back from stressful, challenging or traumatic situations. It helps children in reacting to difficult situations by being brave and smart, which can open themselves up to a plethora of great possibilities. Resilience can be manifested in children of all ages!
With resilience, your kids will:
- use positive self-talk for encouragement
- be capable of expressing their feelings and thoughts
- not hide away from strong feelings
- have helpful, age-appropriate strategies to manage their emotions if they are upset
- rearrange their plans to work around an unexpected situation
- use a trial-and-error approach in their daily life
- remain hopeful and keep on trying if something doesn’t work out
- know when to stop trying if they decide the effort is not worthwhile
- actively ask for help if they need it
We know that learning how to help kids build resilience to build it is a top concern for parents these days. Here are our tips!
- Indulge them in activities that promote mindfulness: Give them opportunities to encounter challenges and problems! The purpose of teaching mindfulness to our children is to:
- give them skills to develop their awareness of their inner and outer experiences
- to recognize their thoughts as “just thoughts” and not conclusions
- and to understand how emotions manifest in their bodies and minds
All of this sums up in ‘realizing their true potential which is beyond any measure’. This is done to help kids become more self-aware so they can understand what their potential is and how they can tackle even the toughest challenges by remaining calm and thoughtful.
- Exercise and Workout
Exercise strengthens and reorganizes our mind to make it more resilient to stress. It also can provide us more clarity in terms of thinking thoroughly and making sound decisions. Hence, a good way to optimize their minds in the healthiest way is through exercise and movement!
- Build feelings of competence and a sense of mastery.
(Quick question – “How would you like to see your kid in life?” – As a ‘WARRIOR’ or a ‘Worrier’?)
We know your answer, which is why we feel that teaching kids the importance of hardship and hard work is necessary. They need to master the art of competently accomplishing goals until it is second nature! This is also sure to boost their self-esteem and increase their productivity throughout their lifetime!
- Nurture optimism
A positive sense of self is one of the greatest gifts you can give your kids. Optimism has been found as one of the key characteristics of resilient people. A great example for this can be something like this situation and response:
If they are sick and have to miss their school field trip, you could talk to them in an optimistic way:
‘I completely understand that you feel sad and disappointed for not being able to go on the field trip. But, who thought that this day would turn out just awesome being a mommy-kiddo day. So, instead we can do a lot of other things at home, such as trying some DIY arts and crafts activities, having a storytelling session, or we can cuddle up in the living room and watch a good animated movie with hot chocolate.’
- Teach them how to reframe.
The idea is not to divert your kids, but to support them in reframing things when the going gets tough! The ability to reframe challenges in ways that feel less problematic is a form of resilience. Teaching them to how to reframe situations is one of the most valuable skills for them to have. It teaches them the importance of gratitude and happiness in any difficult situation and all they need to realize is: “What’s coming is better than what’s gone! I’d rather focus on what I have than what I have lost.”
The resilience building process may take time, but it’s worth the effort. In the end, we all want our kids to have a great future and helping them build resilience is one way to bring them closer to that goal! Looking for activities which will help students learn resilience? Go to iQuriousKids.com and get your kids enrolled in the best after-school activities to raise their levels of mental and physical development!