How to help your teenagers when puberty hits? (To the good, the bad and the ugly)

Puberty is hard and challenging. It is known to be a period of  “Storm and Stress” With childhood left behind, your little ones hit adolescence, a new territory for them and you. At times, Puberty can be really frustrating and difficult to deal with as the changes in body, mind and hormones are not always in sync and can sometimes feel sudden.

During this phase, life can feel like a roller coaster and that too an awfully scary one at times. But if dealt with proper care and support from parents and family, the teen years can be fascinating and one can surely grow into a beautiful individual without too many hiccups. To arm yourself with the knowledge to help your teen, we have explained Puberty and how to help adolescents during this phase with our top tips:

“Puberty is the process of physical changes through which a child’s body matures into an adult body capable of sexual reproduction. It involves a series of physical, biological, psychological and behavioral changes, which take place slowly and gradually”. (Source:

Medical explanation: Puberty’s trigger lies in a small part of the brain called the hypothalamus, a gland that secretes gonadotropin-releasing hormone (GnRH). GnRH stimulates the pituitary gland, a pea-sized organ, to emit two hormones: luteinizing hormone (LH) and follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH).These two hormones signal the female and male sex organs (ovaries and testes, respectively) to begin releasing the appropriate sex hormones, including estrogens and testosterone, which launch the other signs of puberty in the body. (Source:


When do boys and girls hit puberty?

Age can vary among teens:

  • Puberty usually occurs in girls between the ages of 8 to 13, (Average age is 10)
  • Boys generally hit puberty later, between the ages of 9 to 14, (Average age is 11 ½)

Some indicators that they are getting close: body hair; skin changes; change in body – growth; weight, shape etc; voice changes; sweating etc.  


So how can you help your teen when they hit puberty?

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  1. Creating a safe and comfortable environment at home


Well before puberty hits your child, you should start creating an environment which encourages open communication. Communication and trust are  two imperatives in ensuring a positive and a stable relation with your teen. Try to begin with the easy-communication when your child is young. Let them feel that that you are there for them and willing to converse about anything – they will come to you if they know they can. Don’t expect them to know automatically.

Also make these conversations normal so that they are not shy or ashamed to talk about seemingly private and personal topics.

It will be considerably less demanding for your youngster to come to you with straightforward inquiries and overtime build an informality around some of the harder question as they experience puberty based changes.


  1. Early Preparation

When you feel your teen is rationally and mentally ready to deal with the discussions, you should start conversing with them about adolescence. Try not to hold off . Make them understand what puberty is and how it brings physical, mental and hormonal changes. It is equally a mindset change for some parent to learn to open up and freely discuss with their adolescent some of their own relevant experiences.

Preparing before puberty doesn’t change the way it will happen, yet preparation can enable both you and your child to get ready


  1. Be there for them and encourage Self Esteem

One of the most vital thing you have to do when your teen going through puberty, is to enable them to understand their self worth and value. They need to realize that regardless of what is going on or changes they are experiencing, you will always be there and you will always cherish them the way they are. This is necessary because you need to make them realize the importance of self-worth / respect and your selfless love.

Other than these, some of our personally recommended tips are:

  • Encourage healthy eating
  • Support your child’s physical activity
  • Encourage healthy sleep routines
  • Indulge in open communication
  • Set some boundaries
  • Try to be non-judgemental when talking to a young teen
  • Avoid comparing your teen to others
  • Have a positive approach


Try not to “sweat the little stuff”. Both you and your teen need to take a step back and recognize that puberty does not come without its difficulties. Your teen might make mistakes or may behave abruptly sometimes, but handling the situation practically and calmly is the best way to figure things out. Remember you are the grown up here!


This is a two part series on puberty. There are many upsides too and we will talk about them in a upcoming blog…Till then keep surfing at 


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